Wednesday, November 5, 2008

So you want to be a Swinger but your Partner does not want to Play?

What do you do when your Partner does not want to Play?


Entering the swinging lifestyle for new couples can be a bit daunting. Newbies (‘couples and singles new to swinging or the lifestyle”) know there is much to learn and even more to learn about themselves, their relationship and their roles in their newfound activity. Successful swinging couples will tell you that communication is the key to making not only their marriage work but their lifestyle hobby as well.

Sometimes, only one partner in a sexxy couple “(a couple where both partners are equally sexy”) is truly interested in swapping partners or engaging in recreational sexual activities with individuals to whom they are not married or in a committed relationship. This partner is generally referred to as the desirousparty (“the party in a couple that wants to engage in swinging”) and the other is referred to as the hold-out (“the party in a couple that does not want to engage in swinging).

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For some couples this is a minor inconvenience, while for other’s it can become a major issue. Some couples choose to evolve their relationship into an “open relationship” (a relationship where either one or both of the parties is free to openly engage in sexual and dating activity with someone not their partner) and for others, it can be a deal breaker where they i) do not engage in swinging at all, or ii) they end their relationship to pursue other avenues.


The biggest mistake that any sexxy couple can make in considering this lifestyle is to move to fast. Honesty, trust and open communication are they only methods that will preserve the relationship while attempting to venture into foreign territory. It is imperative that the desirousparty instill trust and loyalty into the hold-out, otherwise; the two could be sitting on a landmine.


Remember, swinging couples are first and foremost committed to one another and their relationship and swapping sexual partners is only a hobby to be enjoyed equally by both partners. If one partner is not yet ready, it would do well for the desirousparty to take it very slow. Swinging is not a race, nor is it a competitive sport. Some couples can make the lifestyle seem like a competition, and engage in “sport-fucking” which can result in detrimental emotional and physical results. Remember: you are not being graded, and if you feel you are – then you are probably hanging around the wrong crowd of people. The swinging lifestyle should be about pleasing yourself and your partner first, no one else matters.



It's a good idea to start out slow and takes things one day at a time. Rather than jumping headfirst into the first gangbang you are invited to, consider joining an online community of lifestyle enthusiasts just like you. Online you will find many people in just your situation, at various level of swinging experience, all eager to make your acquaintance, and help you get adjusted.





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Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Dallas Swingers Love Infiltrating Vanilla Crowds

Dallas Swingers Love infiltrating Vanilla Crowds....

So, you may be asking yourself - just what is a Vanilla Crowd? Well, the term is used to distinguish between "generic" or "normal" people and those of "flavor"...meaning, a vanilla person is one who is not involved in an alternative lifestyle. Alternative lifestyle of course, can refer to any non homogenous, heterosexual, monogamous relationship. So an alternative lifestyle can be a:

- Homosexual Relationship
- Bisexual Relationship
- Gay Lifestyle
- GLBT - "Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual or transgender"
- BDSM - "fetish" or "bondage, domination, submission, sadism or masochism"
- Swinger Lifestyle or Swinging Couple
- Wife-Swappers
- Sexxy Couples Seeking other Sexxy Couples


People that are NOT into an alternative lifestyle are referred to as "vanilla" people and the clubs they frequent as "vanilla" clubs. So - most any club you could go to in any city would be considered and standard, tried and true "vanilla" establishment. Typically, vanilla people frequent vanilla clubs - HOWEVER - it is not uncommon to find swingers, sexxy couples, swappers, lifestyle enthusiasts, bi-sexual females, or other alternative lifestylers in a vanilla establishment. Afterall, one does not swing 24/7.

Additionally, lifestylers and swingers in Dallas enjoy the challenge of meeting new people in vanilla clubs and "converting" them to the lifestyle even if just for the evening...lol More often than not, houston swingers and sexxy couples in Texas simply enjoy the laid back no pressure atmosphere of a vanilla club where they can relax and enjoy the company of others.

Everyone knows that one is not born a swinger. At some point, all swingers are "newbies" or "new to the lifestyle" and that usually happens as a result of a friend or playmate introducing them to the activities, meeting someone who is a swinger or finding out about the swinging lifestyle through the internet or via some other web search. A quick search of the web will taken you to all kinds of portals to learn more about the lifestyle and hook up with and connect with other like minded individuals.

A good site to start for swingers in Dallas Texas is CouplesTouch.com. CouplesTouch.com supports swinger activities NOT just at swinger clubs. Any night of the week you will find meet and greets and mixers at vanilla clubs as well as Affiliate Lifestyle Clubs. So - you dont' have to go to a swingers club to make friends with or enjoy the company of other newbie swingers. You can meet up at your local pub and not be conspicuous, all the while learning about the lifestyle and enjoying the company of possible play partners.

You could even meet that special vanilla couple who is just curious enough to explore with you! Want to find some events at vanilla clubs for like minded couples just like you? Join CouplesTouch.com TODAY!

Monday, November 3, 2008

Post Halloween Blues - SexxyCouples Looking for Dallas NightLife Parties and Events for Swingers in Texas

Well as most people are experiencing the post Halloween blues, thought we would write about the many upcoming sexxy holiday parties that are no doubt in the works for Texas Swingers and sexxycouples looking to play. No doubt you enjoyed dressing up in your sexxy clothes and becoming that alter ego. We swingers surely enjoy role-playing, whether it be in the bdsm lifestyle, fetish ware, or simply sexy attire such as lingerie, or sexxy club wear. DesirousParty ' s always know where the best source for swinger events is!

Swingers in Dallas Texas know that there are a myriad of ways to meet and mingle with other like minded individuals who might be interested in swapping partners, finding a three-some partner, or just enjoying a lazy afternoon with their wife and her sexy bi-sexual girlfriend. Everyone knows that swingers clubs and swingers parties are a great way to meet lifestyle friends, but knowing just what clubs to go to can be a little challenging.

That's why its important for all newbie swingers to become part of a community of like-minded individuals. Online lifestyle communities offer a sense of discretion and safety that's important for people just testing the waters with swinging or maybe planning their first swinging adventure, swinger travel escape or lifestyle party. Dallas Nightlife Parties run the gamut and while there is typically a number of events scheduled in the swinging city of Houston, one must be careful which ones they choose.

Finding a reliable source of information regarding swingers clubs and lifestyle clubs is important. That's why this couple recommends CouplesTouch.com. CouplesTouch.com offers exclusive listings of lifestyle events in the city of Dallas, Texas and affiliate clubs who are approved by the site as well as attested too by its sexxy couples membership base.

If you're looking for a swingers party, swingers club or swingers event in Dallas, or wanting to meeet up with swingers from Houston in a vanilla location for a meet and greet, CouplesTouch.com has what you are looking for. In fact, CouplesTouch.com has the internal mechanismis to all you to post your own events, send out private or personal invitations and see who has RSVP'd to your party! Houston NightLife Parties at its finest! And only CouplesTouch.com can give you the hookup.



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